We all say that sex and physical contact went off a cliff after we got married/ had kids on our wives part. Makes me feel bad when I dont want to have sex. No Im not. Should tell me something, huh? And he even try to contact his ex. Which is why you should be honest, letting your husband know that you want to take your time to get to know each other and even date again. I do go threw hos emails and txt when i can ive also caught him talking to some girl about how he really did love her and what they use to do in dressing rooms and stuff. Question is I never ever receive any emoji sign from my husband , how can those love emoji are showing on his phone frequently used?? ok, my bf and i have been togetherf for almost 5yrs now. He calls me during the day and seems to want to be with me every second. Honestly, I dont know where to start. But I have to be honest, why do you even want to continue this relationship? I had this strange feeling or question in my head because they were still friendly and their last break up somehow , to me, seemed to be left open ended. That assumption of ourselves has been years in the making and our hurt and pain, humiliation and disappointment has hindered our ability to thrive. If you have further questions, feel free to ask! God Bless. An ultimatum isnt even in question. And it was probably wise not to confront your husband immediately, without first trying to gain additional information. So, to do this successfully also shows how strong you are. He turns me down most times by saying Im too tired, we can do it tomorrow I promise or your hands are cold. to me its clear that he is still connected to his childs mother. I had three babies asleep in the house. And if i have been talking to any guy friends he blows up on me. She paused and gave him the phone and he was laughing talkin about he was just playing with me. Is this still cheating? To learn more, read Sexual Anxiety, Personality Predictors of Infidelity, Study Says on the U of G website http://www.uoguelph.ca/news/2011/07/sexual_anxiety.html. He used to complain I clean too much as well. When asked he told that those were for some game they were going to play for party. It did hurt him & it did break his trust on her. So we figured me moving in with my brother would be a good in between until we could get a place (alone) together. I told him I didnt know if I believe him and told him I would be tested for STDs. He tikd me that he loves me and does not want a divorce but if you think that your correct than you have to do what you need to do is what I am told. We saw counselors while he was in treatment and I expressed I felt he was truly in love with this woman. BS, she was calling him all hrs of night, evening wow how stupid I was. I have the gut feeling, but he has a quick tongue and am not sure what to believe. He called her a lier and I beleived him. When I confronted him about that he laughed saying I was over-reacting. Which is a very reasonable thing to do, however, you shouldnt just take him back without setting up some boundaries. Im thinking about leaving. Although it wont change what happened in the past, it can help you work on your future relationships. I will risk sounding rude here but I completely understand your husband. I also pray for strength and energy to find ways to change your life and become happy again. plz help me frnds. Your subconscious is picking up on hints and signs that youre not consciously aware of and that is a far better predictor of his lying and cheating than my advice will ever be. Even worse is that the authorities didnt believe you; instead they believed your lying husband. They also completed scales that measured sexual personality variables and answered questions about their relationships. I too found out on that date that my husband of 26 years (33years together) had been cheating on me. Theres a lot in these comments to suggest that women operate on projection: if we think youre cheating, it must be because we are cheating. This relationship counselor says 92% of men who cheat are sexually satisfied at home. I have the same story Except we have 4 kids But nothing is stopping him from cheating over computer or phone . The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its definitely true. According to Gary Neuman, a womans intuition is the most important indicator that a man is cheating. I was and still am constantly wondering why he would do such a thing. Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself? Truth be told, the last thing you probably want to do right now is getting your workout clothes our and head to the gym, but you might be surprised at how much it could help you work through your feels. Have you directly asked him if hes cheating on you? This was the case with my man. It has never healed right. When I explain she doesnt listen then we argue. On the streets. I cant help that . He told me he didnt tell her anything but I know he did. When we was together for the first part of our relationship there was this girl who I considered a good friend and all of us went to church together. I didnt make him have an affair and I am not responsible for his decisions. hi my name is kathryn and my husband has his own construction company and my son works for him times are hard so he let my sons girl frend work with him job was to wright estaments ride with him all day looking at jobs and no i didnt like this he also would carry viagra and pain pills with him and as you no he says nothing went on why cant i belive this. Wise up. And had a sweet little one together. This is why so many people find him appealing. I confronted him n he denied saying she meant before I came into his life. It hurts so bad. The book is very inexpensive, short, and really easy to understand! Your mother is confused herself, she is also being abused. He has continued to reject me physically, and still to this day defends her when her name comes up I know that I am not wrong, I know that even IF( big IF) he never slept with her, he had an intense emotional relationship with her, that superceeded ours by far, and that alone has ruined our relationship and our marriage, and I cannot let go of the it, I need to know the truth, and why! Ive been to counceling and Ive tried and tried to put this behind me but it seems it will not go away. I think most women who feel cheated, just want to know if their husband had an affair, in order to make a good decision on whether to stay or leave. We got married back in 2006 and went on our honeymoon. Blessings, Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlens last blog postMoney Skills Tips for Teaching Financial Literacy to Kids =-. i just need some help figuring this out please HELP!!! We are dynamic creatures being women. Its off limites to me! everytime i tell him like i feel like youre having an affair he gets mad n tells me im too much.pls help me =/. Don't give him a 50th chance. STay strong! Someone please help. One time I was looking at his little notebook where he always write numbers and letters about what he did at work, but then I saw this name Vanessa written twice in that notebook. No guy will work for sex in the way you are describing (unless it was really, REALLY great sex, and/or the guy is so horrible he doesnt think he could get any, anywhere else, and even than, for a year like that, it would have to be something that keeps on getting better, or even great sex will get old). I dont think I will ever forgive him for what he put me through and yet he says i was unsupportive and ungrateful for him trying to earn a living! Does he allow you to look at his texts or does he whisper when he is in the phone sometimes? Is it even possible to have him fall in love with me again, or should I leave and give up on him ever loving me again? He has told me he cares about her because she gets into trouble (she is a real gem married, has a coworker boyfriend and has been through six men at work already). Amen. Im 32 weeks pregnant and from the beginning my boyfriend has cheated on me. I believe you know deep in your heart if you can trust your husband as much as you know if you can trust anyone. I bbmed him again and told him, why is the history clear if your not hiding anything from me, if you did what i think you did, I hate you. I hope you can see and appreciate this, because focusing on your growth and communication will help you and him get closer. But I found something in his phone that made me question what happened up there . I gave rules to them both, no hanging out all day at work, no lunches, no touching, no texts or calls, both agreed, it only lasted a week and it was back to the same except calls and texts. Thanks for your thoughts on private investigators helping wives find out if their husbands are lying about cheating, Angel! According to him. He owns his own business and ends his day at the same place before coming everyday (another womans business). I still think that he did. What you need is someone to help you see your marriage and your self objectively, so you can figure out the healthiest ways to respond. This is all too familiar. i just completed my first degree programme and i am so shy to tell anyone these problems cos my dad felt i was rather getting married way too early.i feel like i should go back to my dads house but i cant because my marriage ceremony was just the talk of town. 7 Reasons for Relationship Failure, He Cheated on You, But You Cant Stop Loving Him, 8 Ways to Rebuild Trust in Your Husband After Infidelity, Can You Live With a Husband You Dont Trust? I wouldnt want it done to me & Id never do that to another woman! After therapy, grief counseling, C-PTSD (still have it but slowly recovering) I began to slowly wake up & confronted him! You wont regret it!!!!! Hes no longer as sweet as before. Mind you he is extremley greedy, and selfish which Im just getting to know this about him. It very very clear that your husband is cheating. help me sarah. The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. He does not value your marriage AT ALL. The bad news is that I cant respond personally to everyones comments, because I just dont have the time. I didnt trust him he left that work place and I told him if he didnt get me the girls number then I would call his ex boss and disclose everything to him. It makes me think if he didnt erased the before why now after I ask. Do your trust your husband? To think it began with Facebook and he allowed our life together to be contaminated by someone who was using him, the way he uses others. But, the article may give you some direction and insight. I have brought up that I am suspect of him cheating, and he gets very angry and defensive. Found some odd emails in his phone tonight, so I clicked one and discovered that he had setup an account on a cheating website Ashley Madison. I heard a text come thru. am in doubt whether he s havng any affair.. how to find out. Even if you delete it from the trash. He is chronic liar and a cheater. i have questions on how to chatch me cheating husbans. He lied about bills and got us into a lot of financial difficulty. I know that my husband cheated on his 1st wife. She was married, but lived in another state, so I left it alone at first. I told him it didn't have to be over if he cheated on me, we'd just would need to see a counselor and see what would happen. Your marriage is one of the most important things in your life, and looking for signs your husband is cheating is devastating. Meanwhile I found out he joined a singles club and I dont know how long he has been part of this club. Im not married but I have a baby with my live in partner. He laughed and said who ever told me that must be on crack and it was a ly. My husband have been cheating on me every since I married him. Infidelity is a sign of no respect for the spouse who is hurt by it, the relationship and the cheating husband has absolutely no respect for himself. My prayer for you is that you do not let this man deceive you the way he has deceived other women. I am terribly sorry to say ladies, men do not like being spied upon either. I dont want to be the one to shatter your dream, but its best recognized sooner than later. Well we were on our honeymoon my husband said to me only as this girl was walking towards us at the pool o by the way that girl there i went to the bar last night and had some drinks with her and went for a walk on the beach well you were sleeping. This has been going on since Spring of 2010, the suspicions. Plus, Janine Driver of the Body Language Institute shares four ways to know if yourhusband is lying about cheating. First time i found out I forgave him he continued to do it behind my back, when i was pregnant he continued we went to the doc and found out i was pregnant i thought he was texting my mom but he was texting the other women and he would call the other women when i left for work or not when Im not around. Over the years even after we got married back in 2013, our relationship has become more and more difficult. Im so confused now. Then I realized that since he had a vasectomy, he probably didnt wear a condom. THEY WILL BREAK YOUR HEART ! Prepare for His Reaction. Many blessings of peace and joy on you, Laurie. Nov 21,2013 I found out my husband was cheating on me. We dont have the money for counseling and Im afraid he will think its nuts that I want counseling. I found all kinda of correspondence between them. What really can crash a feeble marriage is lack of communication. Plz help. He only talks about work and seems particularly bitter about one girl in particular because shes sleeping around the place (which is very evident on Facebook and makes me wonder if hes bitter shes used him and done with him). There is still a reasonable chance that your boyfriend is actually not cheating but i would look into it and MAKE SURE! Even though I can see that he is trying to repair the damage that he has caused, Im so fearful of finding trust again in our relationship. He goes out and gets drunk. he said no that is why we are going out this side door. What would you advise your friend to do, if she was in this situation? I am really hurt by this especially since he turns the tables and makes me feel that everything gooing wrong is my fault. just spruce your self up. We went to marriage counseling for 2 months, he started to believe in God, would pray together.but has since stopped. Im a 25 year old male and have been in a strange relationship for 4 years and 5 months. And Signs He Does, Why Do Guys Like Anal? Its almost like he is bipolar *he is a marine and has been over seas* but that doesnt give him the right to drink or treat me like that. His problem is he is constantly suspicious of me and waiting for me to pay him back even though I have assured him I wont. But he also deny, what should i do? Its all Ive got left. There are no easy answers when youre getting signs that your husband is cheating and lying about his affair or his Facebook activities, or his relationships with coworkers. He was a tall good looking man with a great personalty. OH! Idk. She would critesise me on things likeIf i see someone doing somthing wrong and I talk to her about it, she replies with something els I did wrong. I dont know if my story helps you at all, its pretty grim. Im sorry you had to be, though I wish you and your husband were having no problems to write about. He admitted to it. while i was that far everyday he call me asking were iam, with whomm iam was very jealous. I personally dont he think he would change. I dont know what to do. Good luck and be strong! Meaning the affection/love that I deserve. Thats the question, bcause it seems like all men are cheaters! You answered your own question. He takes care of her by paying her rent and etc. "I excruciatingly suffered." i stayed with my byfriend with no choice, i cried everyday. He has no concern about my feelings and says I am jealous and need to get help. Subtle behaviors were happening. If i say i understand whats happening in my marriage now am lying. Its sad, I know. One emotional affair with a family friend whos like a sister and one very questionable message. He tells me that he loves me and kisses me more often. Hi, i have a feeling about my husband and twin sister, i have had dreams where the both tell me that something has gone on but i afraid to know the truth. Why must someone always search for clues? Then from activity log I can see who he sent friend requests, who he deleted. Believe me, he is feeding you a bunch of bunk. But did you ask for details of the cheating? Easier said than done when you love someone. Now he tells me that he feels empty and without purpose; and blames me for failing him. I was also taken advantage of when I was in a VERY vulnerable position, just experienced a lot of major trauma, huge losses (my entire family), he hurt my grown son, etc. Hi, I read your comments and stories and i just want to share mine. Fact is, I simply dont trust any man. he was just looking at her picture for fantasizing and thats all. He confused real friendship with time. While I am aware that some STDs can be dormant for a while, I AM NOT BUYING IT IN. I dont want to tell him about the tracker cause I want to keep track so I know he is lying to my face, this is killing me and I cant function we have 2 girls 7 & 4 and I dont want to break up our home but Im so scared its killing me. Men do cheat. Hell keep cheating and lying until he decides to leave you. @ Lynn, to me it sounds like your husband has did some form of cheating, either physical or emotional, and may be reluctant to admit to everything because of fear of dealing with the damage he has caused to your marriage or losing you. consider how many times you argue or quarrel, how close is your husband to the kids, does he support in the house though is drinking? Just a month before he left for 7 days and still never told me were he was Rhodes 7 days. Thank you for your comments. Id really appreciate it thank you. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but I do know that we can sabotage our marriages by being suspicious and jealous. he said he can haddle it we should just work out our problems then we got married . I just recently got married to my husband who is in the army and just returned from deployment. married is something big thing in life, if you decide out of temper it will never come back to you. I guess love really is blind, its just im on a fixed income i dont make much money, I get government help, but if I leave him, How on earth will me and my baby make it? But, I think you know that. Or, maybe all you need to know is that your marriage needs help. I was in the store for about 15 minutes or so. I have been with my husband for almost 3 years, we have had our ups and downs but we still find away to work it out. He then had a heart attack and quickly confess to the affair. I will never do anything like that again. I decided to go and attend somthing in other town for 4 months. Please dont. I so sorry ur going through this. I cant find one because I have an iPhone and he has an android. When an ex wants you back, his return is more likely to look like a whimper rather than a roar. one day while he was drunk i copied his password so that day i open his phone and i could not believe of what i saw. You're looking for concrete proof but you might never get that. The first 5 months of our relationship he and I were very active with our physical love life he loved touching me and we would do it about 3-6 times out of a weekHe smokes pot everyday and stays up late. Affair Strategies for a "Long Game". Constantly twisting the truth? ETC ETC. I am currently getting help for my self..which he stated that he wanted to help me, he told me he was going to end his affair..but he still said he didnt feel the same about me ..I still love him very much. I have confronted him and he still denies anything is going on. That doesnt mean that you cant take your failing marriage as an excuse to change up your appearance, but do it in a way to pamper yourself and make you feel more confident. Say good bye, change the locks go see a nice psychologist who can lift up your spirits while you are sad about this. I soon found out what sorry I left marks meant. I wasnt even thinking straight due to so much loss! If cancer cant bring you down, neither will this! Come back anytime, and let me know how youre doing! Or get a divorce. When she had enough, she just kicked him to the curb. Im not always rite and I know that.BUT THIS I DO NOT DESERVE!! When I found out his girlfriend, the only girl he has dated since our divorce a year and a half ago, was someone he had met at his old job, I asked, Were you having an affair. He looked down at the floor and said, No, No. I hardly knew her when I worked there. They talked and he said he told her that he would stop by when he was working if he could. He doesn't mean it. We do choose the familiar. Not from him or the therapist. I dont even doubt hes committed adultry with other women before too. Once again when the sneaky games are stopped being played, and concetrate on each other. He was telling me I am paranoid, controlling, making him feel paranoid.. while all I wanted was to understand why and how can someone be so cruel and cold. He admitted he deleted the emails as they came in. 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